When relationships break down, many people assume that their only option is to instruct a solicitor and head to court. But new research suggests a more positive trend — more people are becoming aware of family mediation and the many benefits it brings.
According to a recent study carried out by Survation for the Family Mediation Council (FMC), awareness of mediation is on the rise, and that could mean a significant reduction in costly, stressful court battles for separating couples across England and Wales.
The Research at a Glance
- 66% of people now know that family mediation is available to help separating couples reach agreements over children, finances and property without the need to go to court.
- Yet, 45% said they would still go to a solicitor first, while only 30% said they would choose a mediator.
This suggests that while awareness of mediation is growing, many people still see the legal route as their default starting point — even though mediation often proves faster, less stressful, and far less expensive.
Why Mediation Matters
Family mediation can transform the way couples approach separation. Instead of battling through solicitors’ letters and waiting months for a court date, mediation gives separating couples the chance to sit down together with a trained professional and work through their issues constructively.
Here are just a few of the benefits:
- Lower cost – Court proceedings can quickly run into thousands of pounds. Mediation, by comparison, is usually far more affordable, especially with the Government’s Family Mediation Voucher Scheme currently offering up to £500 towards the cost.
- Faster resolution – Mediation sessions can often be arranged within weeks, helping couples move forward without the long delays that often come with court.
- Reduced stress – Court can be intimidating and adversarial. Mediation provides a calm, structured space where both parties are supported in reaching an agreement.
- Focus on the family – Mediation prioritises children’s needs and helps parents find workable arrangements that are in their best interests.
- Control and flexibility – Couples make their own decisions in mediation, rather than having outcomes imposed by a judge.
The Challenge Ahead
“It’s good that so many people know family mediation is an option. It is now my goal to ensure that growing awareness means that divorcing and separating couples take action, knocking on a family mediator’s door first.” – Stephen Burke, Chair of the Family Mediation Council
The research shows there is still work to do. Many couples understand that mediation exists, but they don’t always realise how effective it can be, or that they can go directly to a mediator without needing to approach a solicitor first.
How Families Can Be Supported
To build on this growing awareness, more needs to be done to:
- Promote mediation earlier in the separation process, before legal battles escalate.
- Provide clear information about how mediation works, when it is suitable, and what the outcomes can be.
- Highlight Government support, such as the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme, which makes the process even more affordable.
- Show real stories of how mediation has helped families move forward positively.
Initiatives such as Family Mediation Week play a vital role in raising awareness, offering free resources, events, and information sessions to encourage couples to consider mediation first.
Choosing Mediation
If you are facing separation, choosing mediation from the start can save you unnecessary time, stress and expense. It allows you to focus on what really matters — moving forward in a way that protects your wellbeing and, if you have them, your children’s best interests.
At We Mediate, we support families through separation by:
- Explaining how mediation works clearly and simply
- Exploring whether mediation is right for your circumstances
- Helping you work through parenting arrangements, finances, property and other issues
- Supporting you in reaching agreements that are practical, fair, and long-lasting
Take the First Step with We Mediate
You don’t have to face separation alone, and you don’t have to rush straight to court. Mediation offers a better way forward — one that keeps you in control and supports your family through change.
👉 Contact We Mediate today to find out how family mediation could help you. Call one of the family mediators today on 0333 567 1676, or click here to send a confidential message.
Frequently Asked Questions About Family Mediation
1. Is family mediation legally binding?
The agreements made in mediation are not automatically legally binding. However, they can be turned into a legally binding document (such as a consent order) if both parties agree and apply to the court. Many people choose this step for added security.
2. How much does mediation cost?
Costs vary, but mediation is generally far more affordable than going to court. The Government’s Family Mediation Voucher Scheme currently provides up to £500 towards the cost of mediation for eligible families.
3. What if the other person refuses to attend mediation?
Mediation is voluntary. If one person refuses to attend, the mediator will record this, and the other party can usually then apply to court. In most cases, attending a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) is required before a court application can be made.
4. How long does the mediation process take?
Every case is different, but most families resolve their issues in between 2 and 5 sessions. Each session typically lasts around 90 minutes, and sessions can be scheduled at a pace that works for everyone involved.
5. Can mediation help with arrangements for children?
Yes. Mediation is often used to agree where children will live, how much time they will spend with each parent, and how key decisions will be made. It focuses on the best interests of the children while helping parents communicate more effectively.
6. Do I still need a solicitor if I use mediation?
You don’t need a solicitor to take part in mediation, but many people find it helpful to get legal advice alongside the process. A solicitor can review any proposed agreements and advise you on making them legally binding if required.
What To Do Now
If you’re considering divorce or separation, family mediation offers a constructive, cost-effective way to resolve disputes without the stress and expense of going to court. By working with a professionally trained mediator, you can reach practical agreements that reflect the needs and interests of everyone involved — especially children.
At We Mediate, we provide a comprehensive range of services to support you through every stage of your separation. Our experienced and accredited mediators help you navigate complex issues such as financial arrangements, child contact schedules, co-parenting strategies, and communication challenges, all in a safe and confidential setting.
We believe every family deserves a fair, respectful, and accessible path through separation. Our focus is on creating balanced outcomes that prioritise the wellbeing of all parties, and our commitment to affordability means we can support families across England and Wales, no matter their circumstances.
Before starting mediation, you will need to attend a MIAM — a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. This is a confidential one-to-one session with an accredited family mediator, where you’ll learn more about how mediation works and whether it’s suitable for your situation. We can usually arrange MIAMs quickly, often within 24–48 hours, with daytime and evening appointments available. Book your MIAM today to take the first step towards resolving matters in a more cooperative and less adversarial way.
If you’re ready to explore a more amicable approach to divorce or separation, we invite you to browse our website or contact us directly. Whether you’re just beginning to consider your options or are already in the midst of proceedings, our team is here to guide and support you at every stage. Schedule your consultation today and discover how mediation can help you move forward with clarity and confidence.
You can call us on 0333 567 1676 or click here to send us a confidential email.
